01 October 2006

expectations

an extremely insensitive remark made last night has me thinking about expectations.

something horribly shocking happens and one asks "what did they expect?"

does anybody ever expect bad things to happen to them? to say somebody should have expected something, is it to say that they deserved it?

thinking about my failure to expect certain events, i wonder what i expect at all. i always find it difficult to look into the future. what do i expect to happen in five years? tomorrow? what do i deserve?

my roommate says the only thing you can be sure of is the worst case scenario. so that is perhaps what we should expect. then at least we won't be guilty of not expecting what other people think we deserve.

today's question: what is the use of having expectations anyway? is each day just a surprise and expectations, whether high or low, meaningless?

1 comment:

Paul Gladis said...

"Blessed is the man who expects nothing, for he shall never be disappointed." -Alexander Pope

"Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are a good person is a little like expecting the bull not to attack you because you are a vegetarian." -Dennis Wholey

"Climate is what we expect, weather is what we get." - Mark Twain

On the subject of expecting the worst:

"Whatever we expect with confidence becomes our own self-fulfilling prophecy." -Brian Tracy

"Whether you thing you can or you think you can't, you're right." - Henry Ford

"Reexamine all that you have been told in school, or in church or in any book. Dismiss whatever insults your soul." -Walt Whitman

Regarding self image and the expectations we have of ourselves:
"(Expectations) have nothing to do with reality. It was something that had been learned. Anything that has been learned can be reevaluated and challenged. Anything that has been challenged can be "relearned" with new data to replace the old." -Maxwell Maltz


Something insulting was said, eh? Hmmm, I don't remember being there. That person musn't have been 'single.' jeje

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